Choose What Energises You

Just a little reminder for you that you have choices. It’s easy to negate our own responsibility when things aren’t working in the way we’d like them to. There’s all sorts of situations we find ourselves in that feel like hard work.., and we’d just rather not…   So rather than give all our power and choice away to an imaginary puppeteer – it’s important that we stay engaged in the world in a way that is true to Sat Nam – to personal truth (who you are and what you have to offer the world). Take a moment to reflect on why you are doing whatever it is you’re doing.   With growing numbers of life coaches, personal trainers, yoga teachers and “change your life” advocators promoting step by step “how to’s” on improving your life, it’s important to remember that it’s not WHAT you do, it’s WHY you do it.   Checking in with the inner WHY can help guide you towards decision-making that will serve you in the long run.  To find the ‘why’, ask yourself – what gives you the most energy?   If your WHY is clear, you can be sure you’re on the right track – and coming back to that ‘why’ will give you the energy to keep going. Shiv Charan Singh calls this changing the “con-sequence”. The ‘con’ is allowing yourself to get stuck in a sequence of negative energy draining thoughts instead of focusing on that which drives you – your intention – the ‘why’.   We can find this ‘why’ in the biggest project to the most mundane tasks....

The Power of saying “NO”

This post is inspired by women leaders out there who are offering their wisdom and standing behind their truth to influence world change. Yogi Bhajan was hugely committed to the spiritual growth of women in our world, saying that women are the ones to create lasting change for the better –for ourselves and our daughters, nieces and friends by honouring our own personal truth in all the little or big situations we find ourselves in daily. Positive, effective change comes from women who are comfortable with, and who know themselves enough to answer only to their truth. Just a small ask! – considering all the conflicting incoming cultural, lineal, feminist/post feminist/new feminist images of what represents power, strength and impact that we are presented with across the globe.   But then again, it’s also far from impossible –   I’d like to highlight one aspect of change-creation that is a starting point for action towards what we, as truth-seeking heartfelt yogi practitioners hold dear (whatever that is for you). This aspect is the power of saying “NO” and/or the power of NOT doing.   If you attended my Pleasure & Emotions workshop a week or so ago, we focused on this idea quite a bit – the negative space and the not doing as a source of great power – which is also a guide for what to do when you don’t know what to do. Our workshop homework is to practice saying “NO” with grace and I’d like to encourage that homework practice with you all too.   Shiv Charan Singh details this idea in his book “Let...

Want more energy? Deflate your ego.

I recently heard part of a talk Eckhardt Tolle gave on deflating the ego (the thinking mind) in which he gives a simple but profoundly energising tool, being; “live each moment as if you have chosen it”. Quick example: you want to be home with shoes off, but you’re in the supermarket shopping – you can either mull over the awfulness; which drains your energy – or you can live the moment ‘as if you have chosen it’. Life’s moment to moment clashes between what you want and what you are presented with can take up quite a bit of energy if you let them. If we let the ego have it’s way, it will get quite busy reviewing where things went wrong, how things ‘shouldn’t’ be and (at a deeper level) what you’ve done to get yourself there. This takes time and is a completely unnecessary energy drain. We all know this right? But the decision to be conscious about this mental game-changer, makes all the difference. This one tool, ‘living the moment as if you have chosen it’ is what we use once we’ve made the decision to be more conscious. The keywords are the ‘as if’ part of the intention. The whole idea that we create our experience can get a little heavy sometimes, and we can get caught up judging ourselves about what we’ve done or not done to find ourselves in whatever situation we feel trapped in/ unhappy with / victimised by. This simple practice frees up the hows, whys and buts and moves you beyond that straight into the now – deflating the ego...

Fighting For or Against?

What do you feel passionate about and what change would you be want for your world? What do you consider to be fair or right and what do you consider to be unjust or unacceptable? As you awaken your inner warrior to fight for what you believe in, I encourage you to consider the following: Are you fighting FOR or are you fighting AGAINST? – in other words- is there a personal truth to your fight, backed up by dignity, grace and honour, or are you just fighting? If you find there’s a touch of ‘just fighting’, perhaps it’s time to dig deeper and find out what you truly stand for.  The worthiness and the awareness of that may take you far further towards a result than simply hitting up against walls because you’re angry, …about something… I believe it is more and more important to stand up for yourself and others; to stand as graceful warriors and get behind what you believe to be your personal truth. ‘Where there is love there is no question’ Yogi Bhajan more blog posts image:...

Who Am I?

‘Just be yourself’ – the advice you get when nervous, fearful, anxious about something your attending. Good advice, but who is that self? How can we find that me to be? I’ve come to realise, through personal experience, and through working closely with others on this very thing – that when I recommend taking time for oneself, many of us are not sure how to really do this. How long has it been (I hope it was in the recent holidays) since you have gone on holiday and let go of the ‘doing’ and instead basked in the sweet moment to moment? After some time, you say “ahh, I feel like myself again” – That comfort, that settling, that content feeling of connection. There’s nothing like it right? So how do we lose sight of that once back in the world? How come we just touch on it like some other reality and live mainly in the land of ‘who am I?’ We need to take time to keep that connection / or make that connection. Essentially by listening – to your own soul self. That inner space, heard through the silence of the heart. Create a connection there. That connection is seeded through love for yourself. Compassion is the seed of permission to love, permission to be you. Set aside, just for now, the need to become someone better, become richer, become an improved version of yourself. Instead, make time to reach for yourself, to find that inner quiet. ‘The secret is, don’t discover yourself, don’t transform yourself and don’t recreate yourself. Nurture yourself and see what you...

the image of the peaceful meditator is just another distraction

Think of all the commitment, stamina and focus required to maintain an 11 minute meditation that challenges you mentally, physically and emotionally. Transformational yes? Now, we all know the image of the peaceful meditator, a yogi sitting in  a sublime space, with soft eyes, heart smiling; Beautiful – but, I’d like to suggest this image creates an unrealistic goal for us meditators, dedicated to the gritty reality of developing self awareness and personal growth. This image of the peaceful yogi, sets up an easy opt-out for practicing meditators as we decide a meditation is ‘not working’ if we feel distracted, uncomfortable, irritable, bored, challenged – all good reasons to go do something else – however absolutely missing the point. I say this, as it’s important to recognise the magnificent achievement of sitting in an uncomfortable space and holding that space for yourself.  It’s in this process that we become stronger, more aware of our niggles, our mental barriers, of how our emotions play out, how our thoughts influence our lives. Meditation is an accomplishment of will. Developing the strength to stay with a process creates a holding space, so we can then surrender to grace. The silence that comes from moving through the grit is sublime. But best we leave behind the notion that it is the end goal. Rather, see it as a little flag that you have courageously passed through some pretty big challenges and achieved some degree of self control and mind mastery. Something to be considered, to be pleased with, but far from the finish line – there just is no finish line. Do you...

Inspiration and the inbetween

  INSPIRATION. Full and focused, open to possibility. One of those things you can’t force, you can seed it but it comes when it comes. Like anything creative – ever emerging, always forming, until it’s expressed… and then there is…   a…   …pause               THE PAUSE. The nothingness. Perhaps a sense of stuckness. Time to observe, to digest, to let go of. To die a small death and be reborn. The negative space that gives an image it’s potency. A necessary part of the creative process. We can sometimes panic in the pause, maybe even suffer a little. When we try for inspiration it can allude us. Like anything, it will pull away if you’re demanding of it, needy and reaching. Inspiration comes from observation, whether in action or stillness, whether immersed or from a distance. It comes from a yin approach to a yang life. Receptive, open. Trust without reaching. Expression without thinking too much. So if we rest in the pause, sit in the stuckness, allow the small death to make space for the new, inspiration will return, when ready and when the time is right – this flood of energy, a filling up to overflowing so you need to create to release it. An expression of the urge to manifest. Both places are your journey. Both are part of the creative process. other posts  ...

What the Leaves Have to Tell Us

Luscious, luxurious, leafy loveliness all over Melbourne at the moment. How appropriate that the leaves change from the cooler green to the warmer hues as the temperature drops. The colours of the autumn leaves are the colours of the first three chakras. With these colours all around us, they bring a certain energy into the body, resonant with these chakras. WHAT THE LEAVES HAVE TO TELL US: Red – the colour of the root chakra – our earth connection. Connected to our primal need to have all our basic survival needs met. Autumn is a good time to get grounded and stable (before fear, which causes procrastination, takes over). To keep stable and balanced in transitional seasons, we must respond to the season – eating warming foods, like root vegetables and foods that have gathered energy at their core – like apples, pumpkins, pears. Without responding to our body’s changing needs, we just feel more sluggish and unable to support the stable function of the body. Orange is the colour of the second chakra – the centre of  creation. A good time to finish or begin to materialize any ideas/projects we have been seeding over the last few months. Do you feel like it’s time to make things happen? Bring to life those ideas, or to finish something that needs finishing. Yellow is the colour of the third chakra – the element of this chakra is FIRE of course. Representing our personal power and affirmation of self. A good time to reflect on our accomplishments as well as make any adjustments so we can be well on the way...

Autumn – time to take a step back

Being very much a warm weather loving being, autumn has always been a struggle for me. But over the last few years I have been practicing acceptance, with an intention to fully embrace the change! It’s a work in progress, but my intention is to fully honour the inward turn of energy in preparation for winter – nurturing the desire to stay in, to be quiet, warm, and cosy if that’s what I feel like – opting for crafternoons over outdoor, outward energy activities if I feel inclined. Taking note that my pets, who know best in these situations, are also choosing to sleep more, to stay in more, to eat more. During the autumn change, it’s natural to feel more sleepy and internal. I recommend getting as much sleep as you can, eating warming foods and drinking warm drinks – preparing both physically and mentally for the winter months ahead. As human beings our bodies need to adapt to the shifts and changes in weather and this can take energy, so honour that. Autumn is a perfect time for silent meditation, or in other words sitting with yourself – transitioning from outer to inner. Silent meditation – take a step back: Sit quietly. Mentally take a step back. Literally (mentally) rest back into the back part of your body. Simply delight in spending time quietly sitting with yourself. Sit for as long as you like 🙂 Other blog...

Suck your tongue to counter the body’s fear response

When we’re afraid, we tend to tense up – the belly tightens and we can shrink inward, freeze, or just freak out. Here’s a quick kundalini yoga tip to counter fear that I learned from a visiting Sat Nam Rasayan teacher, Ambrosia Espinosa recently: Suck your tongue like a lolly. Yes, that’s right. Suck your tongue like it’s a lolly for 3 minutes (or so). Why?? When we feel fear the mouth dries up and the palms sweat. By sucking your tongue like a lolly we produce saliva and the palms of the hands remain dry. We work from the body to trick the mind that we are in fact not afraid, because our body response is one of being fine, not fearful. Other blog...